Monday, December 23, 2019

getting by and happy holidays

Everyone is familiar with the lyrics from "With a Little Help From My Friends". It is so true, isn't it? Friends that we've known since childhood, friends that we've met in our neighborhood, friends that we've met online, friends that we've met in book clubs or yoga class or church or whatever group you may have joined: They are all precious to us and hopefully provide some of the spirit boost that we all need, especially at this time of year.

This was my first time meeting in person with these lovely ladies. (That's me with the light hair and glasses peeking out waaay in the back, middle.) As an introvert, totally out of my comfort zone to join a big group. In fact, I went home with a massive headache and swore never to join such a big group again, but it was incredibly lovely getting to know some of these ladies. Unfortunately, what we have in common is that we've all lost a child due to drugs. One of the women in this group has actually lost two children due to this horrible disease of addiction.

This smaller group of friends is more my speed. 😉 As always, I'm poking my head into the photo, on the left this time. About five women who normally join this group were missing, but we meet every equinox and solstice for a Women's Circle and dinner. This group of women are the most supportive and uplifting women that I've ever met. And we couldn't all be more different: married, divorced, widowed, straight, gay, lawyer, doula, yoga instructor, social worker, writers, office workers, business owner, moms of biological children, moms of adopted children, childless. The woman in the front, middle with dark hair and glasses is my First Best Friend. We met when we were three years old and still have a very strong bond. The blonde woman with the green scarf in front was my first yoga teacher who is now a good friend.

We've had the most beautiful weather here for the end of December...lots of sun and temperatures in the 40's and even low 50's yesterday.

Brian and I took time to recharge in nature yesterday with a walk in the State Park.
It actually smelled like spring out there, even though it was the first day of winter.

This was an accidental shot with my phone during yesterday afternoon's walk in the State Park. I didn't even know I took it until I looked through my phone's photos. I thought it was cool how I accidentally captured the moon and the sun at the same time.

Thanking you all for your friendship and love...I'm so grateful for all of you. May your holiday season be filled with peace, love, and blessings.



  1. I am so grateful for your friendship. I understand how large groups would make your head hurt. Especially a large group of women who all have a horrible thing in common. Sending ALL of you in that picture so much love.

    I also love the idea of a Winter Solstice gathering. So special and guess what? It gets lighter later each day. That is something to smile about for sure.

    Merry Christmas!

  2. I am glad we are friends, Melanie. Sometimes it is easier to be friends online than it is to meet in person-especially if someone is shy. Love that you have good friends that can see you through the ups and downs of life. We all need those.

    I am sure your heart is heavy this time of year with the loss of your son-Christmas should be filled with sweet memories and not the sorrow of loss. Sending you a hug and love- xo Diana

  3. What a horrible way to meet wonderful people, Melanie - I know the holidays must be especially hard for you, I'm so sorry my friend. Hoping you find some peace in the beauty of the season xo

  4. Friends are gifts to each other. A source of blessing, love and encouragement in our lives. I am glad we have become friends dear Melanie. May your heart be filled with love, peace and sweet memories this Christmas day ~ FlowerLady

  5. It is Christmas Day here. Going to be about 68 degrees. 70 yesterday. I shall spend my day with the pets doing whatever I want and thoroughly enjoying being alone. I'm glad you have the group of women who unfortunately lost a child or children to drugs. What an awful thing to happen to anyone. I'm sure you're there for one another when no one else can quite understand. Happy Holidays to you, old blogging friend! I've always considered you a close friend.

  6. I am becoming more and more introverted the older I get. I am glad you are stretching yourself to get to know more women, women who know your pain. I am also glad you have a good core good that you can rely on. Funny how blogging friends become very important over the years as well. Wishing you a lovely holiday.

  7. Your state park photos are wonderful, Melanie! I know this Christmas has been a challenge for you. I've thought about you and how you are showing great strength during this time. You are one who recognizes the gifts of each day. That's such a good thing!

  8. I hope we get to meet in person one day.

  9. Merry Christmas to you, Melanie. It looks like you have such a wonderful supportive group of friends. What a blessing. I'm a small group kind of gal myself. I'm so glad we met via friendships have truly been the best part of the journey. Hugs to you...


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