Lots of activity around here lately...visiting Tim at his new place, a visit from and
thrifting with my first best friend (we've known each other since we were three!),
fall yard work, still working on putting books in the new bookcases, fall baking, trying
to finish up painting the nightstand for our bedroom (I'm taking a blog break while
the paint dries), and then yesterday...Brian and I meeting up with Tim at the cemetery
to remember and honor Phil. I can't believe it's been four years since the day he
passed away. What else can I write that hasn't already been written ~ about how our
lives will never be the same and how much we miss him? I'll tell you this though: my
heart hurts more for Tim than it does for myself or Brian. Tim still understandably has
a hard time dealing with his brother's death, to the point where he didn't go to one
of his classes yesterday because he didn't want to interact with anyone.
Breaks my heart.
(Phil and Tim - Easter 2008)
On to other things around Comfy House ~
OWLS!!
My mom gave me this adorable owl planter. Well, I call it a planter and made
it into one. I don't know what it originally was. The date on the bottom says 1975,
and looks like it might've had some kind of lid.
Zippo is showing us that he's much cuter than any ol' owl.
The owl love continues onto the ladder bookcase...
The two small owls on the top shelf are Goebel.
Snagged them on eBay a few years ago.
This little guy was found while thrifting for 49 cents...
And this painted pretty was another thrifted find from a few years ago.
I bought the yellow candle holder a few days ago at TJ Maxx from the
clearance rack.
I've noticed the trend towards gold in decorating this season, but since I have a silver
lamp on the table next to the couch, this silver owl goes with the flow.
Be thankful for those whooo you love ~ tell them every chance you get how
much you love them and how your life is richer from their presence.
I can't imagine your loss, Melanie. My heart aches for you and your family today. I hope little Zippo's charm makes you smile. Hugs, Deb
ReplyDeleteThank you, Deb. xoxo
DeleteI love owls and yours are all adorable. Thinking of your family on this anniversary. My husband lost his older brother when they were 15 and 17, over 20 years ago, and it's still hard for him. I think it became more poignant when my husband had children of his own because he would have loved for them to know their uncle, especially our son who looks a lot like his uncle and shares some personality traits and interests that he had. At this point, he's sad about what could have been more than what he misses, I think.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your husband's story with me...I'm so sorry to hear that he lost his brother, too.
DeleteMelanie, so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine losing a child - one that you've nurtured and raised and think you have them grown. I miss our little Landen so much but he was just four. I can't imagine the pain. You and your family are in my prayers and I pray the Lord gives you a peace that only He can give.
ReplyDeleteBlessings to you all.
Judy
Thank you so much, Judy for your words of comfort.
DeleteOh I am so sorry for your loss and such a hard time every day I am sure. I so hope your son finds peace, I am sure he loves his brother very much and misses him greatly. God Bless. Hugs, Marty
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind words, Marty. So appreciated.
DeleteHi Melanie,
ReplyDeleteIt's been just 4 months for me and I'm hoping it gets better. Reading about your son, Tim, hurts my heart. I hope you all can find comfort in each other on days like this.
Hugs, Balisha
Thank you, Balisha. Four months is not much at all in the grieving process. As they say, the first year is the hardest. I remember a friend of mine, who had also lost a son, telling me that her family didn't find their "new normal" for two years. I remember thinking that I'd never make it that long - two years was an eternity to me. But we did make it - and are still making it. And while we'll always miss Phil and there will always be that void in our lives and hearts, the acute pain lessens as time goes on. We're finding it easier to reflect on the good memories.
DeleteI am so sorry. I can't even imagine how hard it is to loose a child.
ReplyDeleteI am loving owls as well right now. They are so many cute ones.
(((((HUGS))))
Thank you kindly, Debby.
DeleteI am very sad for you, your husband and Tim in the death of Phil. In mentioning Phil's death and talking about your grief . . . I think you open the door for others to see the truth of loss, of grief. Talking about your feelings sounds like it encourages others to come forward and talk about their personal grief. For me, for you to be open and talk about his life and his death gives credence and value, plus love . . . to his life. My caring is sent your way today Melanie . . .
ReplyDeleteBeautiful words of encouragement. Thank you, Lynne.
DeleteI'm so sorry, Melanie. These anniversaries are so hard to get through. I lost my brother in September, many years ago, and though time has gone by, the memories are still strong and the loss still bitter. My love and sympathy to you and your family. Losing a child is a terrible thing.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for your words of comfort, Claudia. Losing a sibling is awful, too. My heart goes out to you.
DeleteI'm so sorry, Melanie. These anniversaries are so hard to get through. I lost my brother in September, many years ago, and though time has gone by, the memories are still strong and the loss still bitter. My love and sympathy to you and your family. Losing a child is a terrible thing.
ReplyDeleteAll I can wish is that you and your family live this anniversary as peacefully as possible... And I'll remember to call my cousin tomorrow to tell her I lvoe her. Because as you mentioned , this is precious.
ReplyDeleteMelanie,
ReplyDeleteYou express yourself so beautifully and love so richly-thank you for sharing this heartfelt post. You know that you are in my heart. Your owl collection is darling and you know they are really coming back into style! I like the one with your kitty cat-Zippo-smiling now:)
Fall Hugs,
Jemma
Melanie,
ReplyDeleteI know that you and your family are a close one, including your mother and aunt and I am so grateful that you are there for one another at this difficult time. You are a great communicator, Melanie, as I have said before when speaking of Phil, and I know that you have helped others with this gift. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours at this time of remembering.
xo
Poppy
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